Eliminate the unnecessary so the necessary may speak!

I have been seeking my whole life, what outside of myself will satisfy me. What I have come to believe is that I already have everything I need and the task at hand is to eliminate the unnecessary so the necessary may speak.

Here are some examples.

Inside my current body is a sleek thinner version of myself, my job is to eliminate /shed the excess pounds so that part of me will be made visible.

My house and belongings. Most if not everything I would ever want is likely here. It is about making the things I want in my life visible. If I have 7 toasters, 9 waffle irons, etc…. the reality is I don’t want or need all of those things. And in fact things aren’t what my life is all about. So perhaps the task at hand is to eliminate all of the toasters and waffle irons so that the fabric of my home is revealed along with the other things I love; musical instruments, art, and the view into my backyard oasis.

Here is a harder area for me, my beliefs. Belief definition - an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists, without proof. What is right and wrong, true and false.

I have heard and come to know in my own life that core beliefs are established when I was a child. Before my brain was fully formed. When I could hold only one truth - things were all good or all bad. Therefore it is likely a good idea if I revisit my core beliefs. For me this was a pretty difficult feat as these beliefs were automatic and running on auto-pilot for decades.

I used the walking it back technique. I would be presented with the same reaction or behavior day after day. After 3 PM until I went to sleep I would want to eat. That was the first step. Identifying this ongoing pattern and getting curious.

I walked it back to what happened right before that, I was feeling uncomfortable. I couldn’t name the feeling or feelings I was having. I just knew that I was uncomfortable and I knew if I ate something I could make it go or at least make it subside for a short period of time. My pattern was to eat on and off between 3 PM and bedtime.

I would like to say that it was days or weeks for these discoveries but, I am slow. It took years to get to this point. Hopefully by reading this it will save you some time. The next “aha” came quicker. I felt the emotions and started to name them. Sadness and loneliness were two that were up front and in center. I also felt tired sometimes to the point of exhaustion. I think the exhaustion came from carrying around all those unfelt feelings.

The “aha” that helped me unlock it was the phrase “I am going to get in trouble”. I believed that if I had my emotions of sadness and loneliness that I was going to get in trouble. So instead I stuffed them and covered the feeling over with food. Today when I feel those emotions bubbling up or hear that voice saying I will get in trouble, I tell myself - I am human, it is human to have emotions, it is okay. Funny thing is when I do that what happens is brief. I feel the emotions, honor them and release them.

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